On July 20th of this year my husband and I made 4 years MARRIED! In December we will make 6 years as a couple. Time surely does fly. My husband has a childhood friend who attended our wedding and he recorded our ceremony. Ive been waiting for it for years! Finally, he sent it to me. As I watched it, I started to cry. You see, in the excitement and adrenaline of the moment I didn’t truly LISTEN to the message that our minister (the one who married us) was giving. I remember a guest at my wedding, who happened to be my high school health teacher, told me that day, “the word that pastor gave was so powerful, I loved it”. Now I wouldnt say my husband and I hit rock bottom, but we did hit a rough patch. It didnt last long, however, those few days were very tough. Things were said that neither of us meant and it was just very hurtful. I ended up going out with my friend to the movies to see the new chick flick that came out, and towards the end of the movie, one of the ladies gave a powerful speech, truly inspiring… but I left that theater feeling even more like crap, feeling more like we werent going to make it, questioning myself, our relationship, our marriage. I went home and went straight to bed. We didnt even speak.
The next day he brings me breakfast in bed. He’s trying to resolve this but I wasnt ready to speak. I was still so hurt and angry. I wanted to make sure I had a clear head when we spoke. Hours pass, im still bed ridden when my eldest son, whose 2 1/2 years old, comes in bed and wants to lay down next to me. HE ENDS UP FALLING ASLEEP! this happens NEVER! then my little one gets tired and falls asleep in his crib. I took this as a sign that it was time for the adults to speak without any interruptions and so we did. We asked eachother really tough questions… questions we knew that the answers could either make us or break us. Thankfully they made us. After we spoke, all the feelings and emotions and horrible thoughts just went away. I literally felt like a weight was just lifted off of me, I was even able to sit up, stand up and move to sit next to him. Then we started to laugh! Laugh at eachothers answers! not disrespectfully but in the way we have always laughed. Laughed because we understood eachother and this was not going to break us. It truly was something special. When you are married to YOUR SOULMATE, or plan on marrying your soulmate, theres never one thing that can not be said.
Marriages arent perfect! They are work. You get what you put into it and communication and openness really is so important. You can have everything else in your relationship, but if it lacks one thing (communication, friendship, or openness..etc) it will struggle. My wedding video reminded me of why I married this marvelous man, of why I married my absolute best friend! The message that was given to us that day was not for the beginning of our marriage, it was what we needed to hear now! and I am truly grateful for the way God used him to speak to us!
We will continue to remember to have Faith, have Hope, and to have Love!
I love you Ruben! Now and Forever!